No one wants to live in a bad neighborhood where everything seems causing a mess, misunderstanding, and disputes. It is not healthy in both emotional and mental health. An unpleasant community relationship will only bring too much stress, anxiety, and depression to those involved individuals. There are drama and pressure from having a neighborhood that does not contribute to growth and development. However, with all those emotional and psychological effects of the situation, a bit of therapist advice might help. Here are some of the things one can do to handle a neighborhood better.
Be Nice To Introduce Yourself (But Don’t Overdo An Invitation)
It would be nice to introduce yourself to the community. It will not only help you gain friends within the area, but the act also helps in diminishing future animosity. It could create an excellent communication tool for different parties. You can start by saying “hi” and showing interest in the people in the neighborhood. But be mindful never overdo an invitation. Meaning, don’t get the wrong idea of letting people feel an unhealthy closeness. You need to be kind to let them know you. But be sure to stick with your personality and don’t become what the people expect you to be.
Mind Your Own Business (Know Your Boundaries)
It is okay that you feel empathic towards your neighbors. It is a significant sign of social development. But what is not okay is you nosing around and trying to get too much involved in their lives. That is, even when you have nothing to do with their situation. There is a thin line between concern and intrusion. You can become concern all the time. You can show sympathy and care for your neighbor in a distant way. But interference is different. You need to understand that not all people in the neighborhood are happy with you knowing all things about them.
Never Gossip (Keep Your Opinion To Yourself)
As an individual, you get entitled to your opinion. You can say whatever you want because you have the right to express yourself. You may agree or disagree on certain things. However, when it comes to your neighbor’s life issues, you better keep your opinion to yourself. Always remember that a piece of unsolicited advice has no room for community or personal development. It can only cause additional damage to what is currently troubling the table. Never start or add something in a gossiping conversation because there is no assurance that everything will stay as is.
Stay In The Middle Of An Argument (Never Take Sides)
One significant thing that destroys neighborhood relationships is the habit of taking sides. When you listen and believe to the person who tells you a convincing first side of the story, you deprive the other one the right to explain his. With that, you become bias and judgmental towards the other. It doesn’t support community growth because you created a restriction by choosing which side you are in. Therefore, instead of contributing to fixing an issue, you fuel things up.
Don’t Step Off The Lane (Keep Your Issues On Base)
It is quite clear that you somehow know your responsibilities to your neighborhood. You care, communicate, engage, and contribute to its betterment. Therefore, you feel comfortable in its system. However, you must understand that your comfortability does not necessarily mean you need everyone’s involvement in your life. There are things that you must keep to yourself, and that includes your personal life issues. You don’t broadcast it to the community to get attention, approval, or sympathy. Keep in mind that people might not care about particular stuff. You might as well enjoy your privacy as much as you need to.
Offer A Helping Hand (But Avoid Too Much Affection)
A neighbor’s role is not just a provider of an everyday smile. There are times that it can support a healthy competition too. But that does not mean you need to deny them a helping hand. As much as possible, you have to become an excellent service in times of these people’s needs. Besides, small acts can create a big deal in some circumstances. What is not appropriate is when you try to help but want to get something in return. Offering a helping hand doesn’t mean you are entitled to your neighbor’s affection. It doesn’t work that way. You can help but be sure to keep your distance.
If you are intelligent enough to understand your role as a neighbor, you will surely survive to handle a better community.