I am the epitome of introversion. Even when I was growing up, I did not like playing with friends at school. I would stay in the room, read storybooks, or stare at the distance. I felt so uncomfortable about getting anyone’s attention, to the extent that I started wearing gender-neutral clothes. There were even a lot of instances in which I had to walk back to our house because I did not have the confidence to ask the bus driver to stop.
When I started working, my company asked me to relocate in another state. I did as I was told because I loved my job too much. My mom was worried about me, though, to the extent that she offered to move with me. She was well-aware of how much of an introvert I was, considering she had to force me a few times to at least say hi to acquaintances. However, I declined her offer.
One of the obvious reasons was that my mother had a great job in our town. Relocating with me would mean that she would have to start over – a task that was neither ideal nor practical for someone in her mid-40s. Another reason that I kept to myself was that I was fed up with being an introvert. I thought that moving to a different place would allow me to reinvent myself. And that’s what happened. A few months after that, I visited my mom at home, and she was pleasantly surprised by the changes that I managed to make.
In case you are now in the same shoes that I was in, here are a few ways to reinvent yourself.
Ditch Your Old Clothing Choices
The first thing that you can do is to try other clothing styles.
I am not saying that your clothes are outmoded or that you are not fashionable enough. However, you may be sticking to the same choices for years now as that’s what’s comfortable for you.
Well, to start altering your mindset about yourself, it is advisable to embrace other styles. If you have always worn T-shirts and jeans before, try sleeveless or cropped tops and shorts or skirts. In case you have never been in a dress before, do it now.
The change does not have to be too drastic, but it has to be visible.
Smile To Everyone
In case you are not comfortable with talking to anyone yet, you can do with preparing a smile to everyone you meet outside of your house. There is something great about seeing a smiley new neighbor than a poker-faced one. It will make you seem approachable and friendly – two characteristics that you have never had back home.
Don’t Wait For Others To Introduce Themselves Before You Do It
Assuming you now have a little confidence in yourself, you can start introducing yourself to others without waiting for them to do it first. Self-introductions are welcome, especially in a new community. It represents your openness to being in good terms with your neighbors, as well as possibly working with them to improve the whole place.
The thought of reinventing yourself in a different neighborhood should not scare you. Remember: no one knows you there, so you can be whoever you want to be. This may be your only chance to make real friends or even start dating.