If you listen to the topics of the 2019 family medicine conference, you will know that it is okay to hate your family at some point. However, what is not acceptable is the buildup of unbearable disgust towards them. No one can blame you for feeling that way. That’s if it has something to do with your mental and emotional destruction. But to validate a point, there are reasons why you feel the hate towards your family.
Fear is often the reason why there is hate. The idea of upsetting someone in the family makes you lose control. This sense of anxiety redirects you to the negative side. You hate your family because you are afraid that you might not exceed their expectations or vice versa.
As much as you know it, anger connects everything towards misbehavior. However, there are instances that this emotion is not at all related to hate. Sometimes, because you are angry, you assume that you hate your family. But anger does not work like that. It builds up over time. It comes from small details you store in your head that affect your emotional balance.
Your hate towards your family can come from resentment. And often, your resentment comes from your inability to speak. Your desire to get what you want but couldn’t is the trigger that puts you in an isolated position. Then the hate grows because you thought your family doesn’t allow you to speak. But the truth is, it is because you can’t dare.
You hate your family because you believe they are the ones responsible for putting you in an uncomfortable position. You hold a grudge because, in your head, they are the ones that screw your life decisions. You think your family is to blame for all the wrong things that you do.
If some of these are your reasons, you might want to evaluate it.